Long
Distance (Part 3): Oh sweet sacrifice
To
all my loyal readers, who read the previous two posts concerning the subject of
long distance relationships; I bring you the epic conclusion regarding this
matter.
I am not going to say this is the last
part or the end, because it has such a negative connotation, we still need time
as this new experience just started. However, I can say that after a rocky
start, stability has been reached and that is why this moment has been chosen
to publish the last part (last part for now at least).
First I will share my ideas about
making the distance closer:
Indeed we have to be thankful for
the new technology at hand, no need to wait weeks for a letter by postal
service or lonesome expensive phone calls every couple of weeks. Now we can all
be connected on a daily basis, every second.
A smartphone is all you need, you
can text for free over data coverage or Wi-Fi, using apps such as Whatsapp
and free call using Viber or Kakao talk and even
video call via Tango or Skype. So use it wisely,
there are so many ways to stay in touch and feel them closer to you.
At night, set at least 2 days per
week where it is about just the two of you, video call on Skype or Google
hangout on your laptop, communicate, share your days, and maybe even watch a
movie on screen share. Call this your dating night, and figure fun ways to stay
close, like sharing the same dinner and talking as if out on a real date…
A fatal error would be to get caught
in the new situation and forget to make time for each other’s, then you will
slowly get over whelmed with work and social life, forgetting along the way
that one person that matters the most. Do not let them fade away and become
just a memory!
Secondly, a relationship as a two
party concept is like a scale, it has to be in perfect harmony and balance.
Both parties have to make the effort, you may both want the relationship to
work and flourish but when one has to make extra efforts to keep everything
from falling apart. They will be afraid of failure, and in a constant state of
fear that they still can do more or what they are sacrificing is not enough.
On the off chance that you are in
neighboring countries or relatively close, try saving up money every month so
that you may be able to visit each other’s every couple of months.
If not, be tolerant of the new situation, and
communicate as much as you can because the root of all problems is
miscommunication and dishonesty, trully loneliness is hard but two loving hearts
are never alone and cheating is never the answer, it will satisfy a momentary
urge but will leave you an empty vessel and carrying a burden. Is it worth
throwing years together for a simple weak moment? Fight and keep on fighting
for the one you love.
Remember all those great love songs,
you are still the one, viva forever, love story, died in your arms… they weren't written in vain.
My honest opinion how I would feel
in a long distance relationship?
I would be envious and jealous of
the people that get to see you every day.
A thousand miles seems pretty far
but they've got planes, trains and boats and if I had no other way I would walk
to you.
In the end, the truly scary
questions to ask yourselves are two:
Can you pick up from where you left?
Will separation make your love
stronger or weaker?
I for one am sure whatever happens,
I can forgive and love because I know my future is you and after this cloud
there is sun, there is a paradise waiting for the both of us to live together
happily ever after.
True Self-Sacrifice of Love
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By William Shakespeare (1564–1616)
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