When to say Goodbye-part 3 (The end)

     

 Torn apart

          You might wish for a time machine and think in your mind: if only I can repair that single mistake or bad choice.  Nevertheless, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and you will get through it: like the phoenix who raises from its ashes more powerful and flamboyant. Furthermore, you would have learned a life’s lesson for the next chapter in your life.

                                               

           Why are you trying to say goodbye? It takes a while because you truly didn’t want to hurt the one you loved and still do. You were putting their own happiness before yours. However, you’re both just heading towards the inevitable it’s all been shacking down for a while.

Sometimes success gets in the way and it becomes intimidating, forcing you to live low so they can achieve their dreams and you stay a spectator.

           We’re all humans and while some can hold their urges others are known to roam free like wild horses. They will feel nostalgic but it’s not a planned thing; everything new is bright and shiny and the old is dim.

          It’s true that miles separating 2 hearts is only a short distance and the yearning will make your love stronger.

But it is true that distance is equal to the unknown, your mind will start playing tricks on you, then comes the assuming part, over analyzing …and the lies.

       The separation maybe premature, but when your love is strong you need time to start the healing process, each will move at his own paste. He or she may be your entire life story or just a chapter.

Either way, it’s your story to write and you decide the length of each chapter, it may be a one chapter story or poem or if you feel the next chapter is even better then you have to close the old one to start the new.

       It’s a paradox in a way, when you know that from now and forever the duality of your relationship means only one can be happy at the expense of the other. 

It’s time to say goodbye when you know you can be happy with someone else

It’s time to say goodbye when you’re looking for any excuse to break it up

It’s time to say goodbye when all trust is lost

It’s time to say goodbye when the love you felt so strong turns bitter

It’s time to say goodbye when you cry yourself to sleep

It’s time to say goodbye when you’re heart starts beating for someone else

It’s time to say goodbye when you don’t care about anything anymore

It’s time to say goodbye when you put on a mask and pretend all is well when you’re slowly withering from the inside 

 

~The end ~

Or is it?

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When to say Goodbye-part 2

      Every fairy tale seemed to end with a happy ending, or at least that’s how I grew up watching movies and reading stories.

     The phrase: “and they lived happily ever after” lingered in our minds and all girls dreamed of their prince charming riding on a white steed and all boys imagined themselves slaying dragons and rescuing the fair maiden.

However, as I mentioned earlier these are mere childish stories… or are they?

   When saying farewell and letting go becomes inevitable, your story reaches an imminent end. Maybe it ended too fast or maybe the next big chapter is just unfolding.

   In no way am I telling anybody to lose hope, keep dreaming of your happy ending but for me a happy ending doesn’t have to involve someone.

   I’m sure some people like me do feel that their happy ever after could be with a prestigious career, retiring to a foreign country… it may or it may not involve a lover.

    We all had our shares of love: bitter and sweet love, I never gave hope and will never give up hope of finding that special someone. Meanwhile, you can make mistakes, have fun, try to work on every relation as if he or she is the one and hope for the best.

   The saddest part is when you do find your soul mate and it works out perfectly. Then a storm passes and you can’t seem to move pass it. The love you loved seems to start fading away slowly but surely. You stop caring so you wouldn’t get hurt and you always have to be one step ahead of the game.

    I gave up hope on mankind a long time ago, but never gave up hope on my humanity. Talk is cheap; they can easily lure you into a state of euphoria and bliss. You start creating that picture perfect world, and then out of the blue it all shatters into tiny pieces.

   Like a rug being pulled under your feet, you loose balance. Why? Every single fight or argument should push you towards fixing the problems in your relationship. However, an adverse effect can take place, it starts pulling you apart slowly.

   You wake up all of a sudden looking into a stranger, where did my love go? Who is this person next to me?

 

~End of part 2~

Last part in next week’s post

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When to say Goodbye-part 1

When to say goodbye?

             When to say goodbye? When to let go of everything? When to move towards the end? 

All these questions are all but one and the same, don’t we all deserve that “happy ever after” fairytale ending? 

            Yes we all do, but life is not all rainbows and unicorns, you have to work hard to earn that happy ending. On a separate note, happy ending doesn’t mean falling in love and getting married. To each his own ambitions in life and his or hers own happy ending. 

Throughout this post I’ll only be speaking by metaphors, because for each person the same picture can mean an entire different story.  So let your imagination roam free, and paint the image in your head and live the moment. 

SO when is it time to say goodbye?  

            I don’t think there is a right time to say it, you know you've  reached a crossroad but the strong love is pulling you back. On the desert road, the lonely merchant hears a soft whim: stay says the desert, let me enrobe you with my sandy dress and we can be together forever. You can come whenever you want but you can never leave. 

There is no longer a “U” in us? 

            You’ll always be in my heart, but sadly life goes on. You’re the river that’s flows within me, but the once flowing summer river is slowly drying up, even the eternal river of love can have a drought, and tears can no longer sustain the thirst of the dwelling beast within. 

            A warrior knows when to surrender and when to fight with vim; alone standing behind the castle walls, he awaits anxiously for the countdown of the last fight of his life.  The once vehement spirit is reduced to a mere childish state. He steps blindly but faithfully into the unknown. 

            You might wish for a time machine and think in your mind: if only I can repair that single mistake or bad choice.  Nevertheless, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and you will get through it: like the phoenix who raises from its ashes more powerful and flamboyant.  You would have learned a life’s lesson for the next chapter in your life.

ᴤ End of part 1 ᴤ

Part 2 is for you to write, does it end or no? I will continue the story in next week’s post.

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