Long Distance (Part 3): Oh sweet sacrifice

Long Distance (Part 3): Oh sweet sacrifice

To all my loyal readers, who read the previous two posts concerning the subject of long distance relationships; I bring you the epic conclusion regarding this matter.

I am not going to say this is the last part or the end, because it has such a negative connotation, we still need time as this new experience just started. However, I can say that after a rocky start, stability has been reached and that is why this moment has been chosen to publish the last part (last part for now at least).

       First I will share my ideas about making the distance closer:

Indeed we have to be thankful for the new technology at hand, no need to wait weeks for a letter by postal service or lonesome expensive phone calls every couple of weeks. Now we can all be connected on a daily basis, every second.

A smartphone is all you need, you can text for free over data coverage or Wi-Fi, using apps such as Whatsapp and free call using Viber or Kakao talk and even video call via Tango or Skype. So use it wisely, there are so many ways to stay in touch and feel them closer to you.

At night, set at least 2 days per week where it is about just the two of you, video call on Skype or Google hangout on your laptop, communicate, share your days, and maybe even watch a movie on screen share. Call this your dating night, and figure fun ways to stay close, like sharing the same dinner and talking as if out on a real date…

A fatal error would be to get caught in the new situation and forget to make time for each other’s, then you will slowly get over whelmed with work and social life, forgetting along the way that one person that matters the most. Do not let them fade away and become just a memory!

     Secondly, a relationship as a two party concept is like a scale, it has to be in perfect harmony and balance. Both parties have to make the effort, you may both want the relationship to work and flourish but when one has to make extra efforts to keep everything from falling apart. They will be afraid of failure, and in a constant state of fear that they still can do more or what they are sacrificing is not enough.

On the off chance that you are in neighboring countries or relatively close, try saving up money every month so that you may be able to visit each other’s every couple of months.

 If not, be tolerant of the new situation, and communicate as much as you can because the root of all problems is miscommunication and dishonesty, trully loneliness is hard but two loving hearts are never alone and cheating is never the answer, it will satisfy a momentary urge but will leave you an empty vessel and carrying a burden. Is it worth throwing years together for a simple weak moment? Fight and keep on fighting for the one you love.

Remember all those great love songs, you are still the one, viva forever, love story, died in your arms… they weren't written in vain.  

My honest opinion how I would feel in a long distance relationship?

I would be envious and jealous of the people that get to see you every day.

A thousand miles seems pretty far but they've got planes, trains and boats and if I had no other way I would walk to you.

       In the end, the truly scary questions to ask yourselves are two:

Can you pick up from where you left?

Will separation make your love stronger or weaker?

I for one am sure whatever happens, I can forgive and love because I know my future is you and after this cloud there is sun, there is a paradise waiting for the both of us to live together happily ever after.

True Self-Sacrifice of Love

By William Shakespeare (1564–1616)

NO longer mourn for me when I am dead Than you shall hear the surly, sullen bell Give notice to the world that I am fled From this vile world with vilest worms to dwell: Nay, if you read this line, remember not 5 The hand that writ it; for I love you so, That I in your sweet thoughts would be forgot, If thinking on me then should make you woe. Oh! if, I say, you look upon this verse, When I perhaps compounded am with clay, 10 Do not so much as my poor name rehearse, But let your love even with my life decay; Lest the wise world should look into your moan, And mock you with me after I am gone.

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tolerance and prejudice

Tolerance, freedom, forgiveness are all key elements of our everyday life. And they are the bases of our interaction with fellow humans.

However, does the freedom of speech permit us to have prejudices? 

Calling someone FAKE won’t make you REAL

Calling them DUMB won't make you SMART

Calling her WEAK won't make you STRONG

Calling him UGLY won't make you BEAUTIFUL

Calling them MEAN won't make you NICE

Calling him GAY won't make you STRAIGHT

Calling her RUDE won't make you POLITE

Many times we reflect our insecurities upon the person facing us; we try to put them down in order for us to feel better.

As we are free to do what we want, so are they. When you allow yourself to do something, then the rest of your society should have an equal right to express itself. Each individual has his own limits and boundaries, one’s freedom ends when the other’s starts. 

 

The youth particularly are living in a world of hate, intolerance and cruelty. When the solution is simple: put yourself in the other person’s shoe for 1 day and live his or her daily struggle and you would think twice before calling them names and bullying them. 

15 year old girl holds hands with her 1 year old son. People call her a "slut", no one knows she was raped at age 14. People call another guy "fat", no one knows he has a serious disease causing him to be overweight. People call an old man "ugly", no one knows he experienced a serious injury to his face while fighting for our country in the war. 

Stereotyping is the complete opposite of tolerance. When you truly accept someone for whom they are, then you are a tolerant person.

Some might say, can we be tolerant towards a criminal for example? Well, we are what society makes us. The misunderstood and bullied student might grow up to be a criminal but is it solemnly his fault? Can’t we also blame the people who tormented him/her? When a simple hi or smile could have had a reverse effect and made them feel accepted. 

Ignorance is the root of all problems, when we encounter someone a little bit odd or unorthodox, he or she are immediately criticized because we are facing new behavior that we do not totally understand. While the best possible outcome would be to get to know this person and his lifestyle, this is rarely the first initiative taken. The most usual conduct is to isolate the individual from society and label him as eccentric, their crime: expressing their self.

There will be always a debate over every new idea, concept or behavior for the plain reason that humanity doesn’t seem to agree on a single issue, not even the apex of all subjects such as world peace. We’ve all heard it: we want peace and clean environment for future generations. Minorities are working hard to obtain such a result and their vocation shouldn’t be taken for granted. However, on the opposite side we find that the majority lakes interests and passion towards any matter, as if passing by life just as unreceptive spectators.

Not a soul need to be so nonchalant, every voice counts and makes a difference; a single grain can shift the stability of the scale. If we can all find the devotion to a cause we can create a worldwide impact. The human willpower is a colossal weapon, when set upon a specific target it is impossible to stop. Nevertheless, it is a double headed weapon capable of being a pure light for everything that is good in this world or a mutilating abyss. Both depend of our intentions and conscious.

Finally, the journey of a thousand mile begins with a single step. We just need the commitment to start that first step and then let life unfold as we grow.

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