Showing posts with label lies. Show all posts
Showing posts with label lies. Show all posts

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Posted by Elie gh On 12:03 AM

The art of deception 


   Mastering a skill requires perseverance, patience and most importantly time. One cannot become master of an art overnight, especially when that art is as tricky as the art of deception.

Deception wields within lies and secrecy, and to deceive or let someone down is a fatal punishment.
If you want to break a human soul all you have to do is lie, break all your promises and watch everything crumble from deception. How can you survive when the person you trusted the most betrays you?

Out of the blue you discover a secret; one they are trying to hide, and you play along their game putting on a poker face, waiting and lurking for them to make one mistake.

Knowing a secret is very empowering, for you get to choose when to confront the liar, when they are in their safe zone, thinking they have fooled everyone. Why wouldn't they? They earned everyone’s trust, but little do they know that with a bit of intuition and trusting your instincts you can uncover many hidden truths.

Secrets and lies have a nasty way of crumbling and surfacing when you least expect it, just when you are comfortable and think you are in the clear, that false sense of security will be your downfall.
What if you knew everything that has been going on for a while now, but with all the goodness in your heart you decide to give a second chance, to let them come clean and confide in you.

They don’t come to you, they chose to lead a secret and obscure road straying from you. Thinking they are in control and they can handle it.

It is not the fact of keeping a secret by itself that hurts the most, no…what keeps you constantly worried, sad and crying every night to sleep is knowing they are oblivious to the fact that you know their secret and fighting so hard not to burst out and let everything fall apart; they are causing you all the pain and sorrow.

All the hard work you put into building trust and honesty is gone, the mistakes of the past come back to haunt you, suddenly you remember you have been down this path before.
You chose to forgive but you never forgot, and how can you? When you have given yourself completely.

Trusting others, giving them a second chance and being honest doesn’t mean being stupid because you reach a point where you can no longer pretend that this will just blow off and go away, even if you wait.

How much can one small heart take before it breaks? Just like every broken promise.
When you were promised honesty you found lies
When you were promised trust you found secrecy
What about all the promises?





The world seemed a happy place, you were unaware of the deception. Yet, here you are, there isn’t a way back, you cannot rewind time, you have to deal with it.
Either you keep everything bottled inside and pretend everything is fine, but deep down you know the lies, or you confront them with the truth.

Nonetheless, confrontation may lead to a separation or someone getting hurt but isn’t someone already being hurt? Knowing a secret is a heavy burden, especially when that secret has a direct effect on you and your life.

Temptation is a bitch, just when you think you are the strongest, you are actually the weakest.
You might think it is a harmless game, just for fun and you can switch it on and off depending on your mood but sadly it is not that simple, when you are playing with fire you are bound to get hurt and what is worst is you might burn someone you really care about, someone you love and has been there for you all the time.

How can you look them in the eyes, if only you knew what lies in their heart, how hurt they are.
You think they don’t know? Well think again. You just have to interpret the signs, you cannot be with your loved one at day and embrace another personality at night to wonder off and let your fantasies roam free.

How can you look them in the eye and tell them you love them, when minutes before or after you were with someone else.

How scared are you of the truth, guess what? It is already out and there is no way of putting it back.
Deleting all the traces won’t delete the effect, you hurt the love you loved the most.

Trust may be regained with a second chance, but blowing your second chance is the dead end ; you cannot get a third chance, not after this.
You will never feel it, but your lover’s heart knows it and feels it, therefore at least have the decency to come clean.

   Finally, tell them you were lying, tell them you have been keeping secrets and they might forgive you, but don’t tell them you love them or try to kiss them. You are just making the wound in the heart deeper.




Friday, January 27, 2012

Posted by Elie gh On 2:49 AM


 Beat the cheat

In this post I'm going to try and explain why cheating occurs in countless relationships. Why is this behavior so widely spread and how to try and repair it.

Many would say cheating is an urge, a primal instinct to satisfy a sexual need. However, I consider it to be  mostly based on fear: cheating is a safe net, you keep your current relationship as it is because nobody knows how your fantasy cheating spree will unfold while you start having fun with other people.

How selfish is it to lead a double life and keep your partner or worst your family in the shadows! you move on with your life while they unaware are oblivion till you drop the bomb or they discover the truth.
And then what happens: their lives fall apart while you may have found love and refuge in another person.

It's not the act of cheating by itself that is so horrifying, it's actually the subsequent events such as the sneaking and lying that are worst. Assume your actions; if  you have cheated it happens, a slip is human but not an excuse.
Just be honest enough to admit it or end the relationship, don't forget that you are not alone in your relationship: your partner has the right to know in order for them to take a decision whether to stay or walk away.

Leading a double life is unhealthy, your heart and mind will be split into two and torn between two persons.
If you cheat you should ask yourself why: what is this person giving you that your partner isn't?
Cheating is a consequence, you should be trying to fix the cause; otherwise cheating will become a continuous pattern.

Effective communication is essential to any relation, heck in everything in life. Also the bases should be understood by both parties of the relationship. Because you don't want to end up with one of those relations where you think it's something serious while for your partner it's an open relationship or any other label.

In the end, it all comes down to trust: blind trusting someone or constant skepticism  are two extremes. The best way is to have an honesty policy: a second chance can be given if you have cheated but know that you owe them faithfulness for the rest of your life and there is no such thing as a third chance. Fool me once shame on you, but fool me twice shame on me.