To cheat or not to cheat?

 Beat the cheat

In this post I'm going to try and explain why cheating occurs in countless relationships. Why is this behavior so widely spread and how to try and repair it.

Many would say cheating is an urge, a primal instinct to satisfy a sexual need. However, I consider it to be  mostly based on fear: cheating is a safe net, you keep your current relationship as it is because nobody knows how your fantasy cheating spree will unfold while you start having fun with other people.

How selfish is it to lead a double life and keep your partner or worst your family in the shadows! you move on with your life while they unaware are oblivion till you drop the bomb or they discover the truth.

And then what happens: their lives fall apart while you may have found love and refuge in another person.

It's not the act of cheating by itself that is so horrifying, it's actually the subsequent events such as the sneaking and lying that are worst. Assume your actions; if  you have cheated it happens, a slip is human but not an excuse.

Just be honest enough to admit it or end the relationship, don't forget that you are not alone in your relationship: your partner has the right to know in order for them to take a decision whether to stay or walk away.

Leading a double life is unhealthy, your heart and mind will be split into two and torn between two persons.

If you cheat you should ask yourself why: what is this person giving you that your partner isn't?

Cheating is a consequence, you should be trying to fix the cause; otherwise cheating will become a continuous pattern.

Effective communication is essential to any relation, heck in everything in life. Also the bases should be understood by both parties of the relationship. Because you don't want to end up with one of those relations where you think it's something serious while for your partner it's an open relationship or any other label.

In the end, it all comes down to trust: blind trusting someone or constant skepticism  are two extremes. The best way is to have an honesty policy: a second chance can be given if you have cheated but know that you owe them faithfulness for the rest of your life and there is no such thing as a third chance. Fool me once shame on you, but fool me twice shame on me.